Relax
I know, easier said than done, but honestly the first step is simple, relax and don’t over think. A conversation is always at its best when it is natural and comfortable. If she says ‘Hi’, don’t think you must come up with something funny to say, just say ‘Hi’ back! A Smile and a ‘how are you today?’ could go a long way to breaking the ice and getting the dialogue going.
If you are currently on a date and not positive how to talk to girls, a good complement will certainly go a very long way! Let her know you think she looks beautiful. Make sure you are well dressed, showered and feel confident. The fact that she agreed to go out with you is definitely a foot in the door, so just relax look great, feel good, and the try your best to loosen up!
Ask Questions … And Reciprocate
One other essential thing to keep in mind when you're trying to have good conversation is that most people out there really enjoy talking about themselves or what their interests are. So be attentive and ask questions, “Maroon 5, nice, are you into them?” Note, you haven’t committed to an opinion but who doesn’t love talking about their music and likes!
Don’t fret if you don’t like the exact same things she does, be genuine, if you like bluegrass music admit it, be proud and don’t hesitate to laugh at yourself - girls adore confidence, even if it’s something they think is foolish. Try not to interrogate her, give her some valuable information regarding yourself and reciprocate her openness.
Refrain From Awkward Or Explosive Subjects
Possible controversial topics is something you should try not to make any jokes about. Politics, religion and exes are all major no-no’s for most people! No anecdotes regarding your ex, either pros and cons. Excellent will cause her to think you are still into your ex lover, and negative probably will make her speculate if you're going to be talking about her like that someday - the most secure rule it so to stay away from the subject like the plague.
Many men thing that bragging about your past conquests (real or imagined) will make them seem more appealing to women. This is definitely not true, many women now a days will be totally disgusted by this and lose interest in you fast if you start talking about all the women that wanted to be with you. Be a gentleman, realize, they are ‘her people’ to talking badly about exes is not always the best strategy.
A lot of young people don't have a problem with talking about politics, but it is certainly not initial conversation material. Women’s issues, gay rights, abortion and the death sentence are just not enchanting. If she'd like to speak about them, trust me, she’ll ask or bring it up herself!
Stay with Safer Topics - Hopes, dreams, hobbies, movies and music
A very critical step in learning how to talk to girls properly is to stay with topics that aren't deemed controversial. Ask her about music, movies, and other activities she loves participating in. What country she would most like to visit, what she would do if money was no question, where she would like to live. And most importantly LISTEN - inquiring the exact same question several times or not remembering what she likes is one thing that can make a girl feel you aren’t really enthusiastic about getting to know her as a man or woman.
Provide beliefs of your own, similar or different - doesn’t really make a difference, but having no opinions probably will make her feel you are either concealing something or not secure. Neither are awesome attributes. Know what you like and why, if the place you’d most like to see is the dream land or Mordor from Lord of the Rings, say so, and don’t’ be scared to laugh about it!
Talking to girls can be nerve racking, but following a few simple pointers can make the experience more pleasant and help you avoid freezing up, stammering or offending her in some way. More importantly, relax, have fun, and she will normally do the same.
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